My Advice to Twenty Something Women
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Now that we’ve reached the third quarter of 2017, it occurred to me that I am on a downhill slide to my 54th birthday in December. Now, I have no problem with my age or telling people my age. Quite frankly, I think I look pretty decent for 54. Am I perfect? Heck no, but then who is, right? At the same time, I don’t consider myself old either. But, age is relative; something I didn’t really learn until I hit age 50. Having achieved this age though, I think back to when I was 24. Good heavens… 30 years ago. I wasn’t a wild child, but there are definitely things I regret and would do differently. If I could give my twenty-something self any advice, this is what it would be.
Confidence is key. You need to exude confidence in yourself. In your knowledge. In your appearance. You are no better and no worse than the next person, and they are no better or worse than you.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Seriously, don’t worry about nonsense. The “he said she said” garbage is ridiculous. Save your brainpower and energy for stuff that really matters.
Plan for your Financial Future
Unless you’re independently wealthy, which most of us are not, then start socking money away NOW for your future. You can’t wait to win the lottery because it’s probably not going to happen. Start saving right now. And, you should have at least two month’s worth of pay in a savings account. You never know what will happen and you may need it.
Don’t worry about your weight. Learn to love yourself for who you are. And, don’t wear the current fashions to just “fit in.” Wear what looks good on you and that makes you feel good. Don’t try and be Kim Kardashian.
Appreciate Your Family
There is nothing…. nothing like family. You may fight. Possibly not speak for a while. But, when you need them the most, your family will be there. They are the ones you can count on above everyone else. AND, spend time with your grandparents. They are the backbone of your family and you should respect them for what they went through before you arrived. I lost my grandparents in my 20’s and I regret not spending more time with them. Do not take them for granted!
Don’t Do Drugs. Period.
The drug/heroin epidemic in our country is truly frightening. The best way to avoid being a victim is to not do drugs. Ever. Simple as that. It’s not cool at all. I don’t care what your friends say. Doing drugs is literally putting poison in your body. How is that a good thing? It’s not. Think about it… there are SOOO many better things you can spend your money on! Shoes! Handbags! Clothes! Why waste it on something that’s going to (literally) kill you!?!?
Take Care of Your Health
The one thing that I hear from just about everyone who is in my age bracket is “I wish I had taken better care of myself when I was younger.” Eat a balanced diet and exercise on a regular basis. Easy. You don’t need to cleanse or fast or do anything drastic. Eat healthy foods. And, you don’t need to run a marathon or become a power lifter. Walk a couple of miles a day or ride a bike. Nothing major.
Make Better Choices
Everything you do will affect something, sometime. E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. I cannot stress that enough. Choose wisely. In this technological world of internet, cell phones, and instant everything, whatever you do will be recorded in some way or another. Everything has consequences. Either be prepared for those consequences, OR make a better choice that won’t hurt you later.
Relationships Take Work
Whether the relationship is family, friends, husband, wife…. whatever…. they take work. #1 COMMUNICATE. Put the cell phone down and have a conversation. IN PERSON. A text or email cannot properly convey the inflection and emotion that a real-life conversation can. Many conflicts and assumptions can be avoided by having a conversation in person, rather than via text.
Find a Career You Love
If you love what you do, then it is no longer work. We spend the majority of our waking hours at work… we need to love it. And, if you find a career you love then you’ll stay there. Remember too, there is SO much more to working for a great company than just the pay. If you find a company that offers fantastic benefits (PTO, insurances, retirement, vacations, and a billion other minor perks) then if the base pay is a little lower it might just be worth sticking around. Longevity at a company is old school and something I think that needs to be revived. There is a lot to be said for loyalty. Many companies are more than willing to accommodate a good employee in order to avoid having to train yet another new person who doesn’t plan on sticking around. I’ve been at my job for 32+ years. I can’t imagine working anywhere else.
Politics in our country are very volatile these days, and our country is very divided. The only way our country is going to heal itself is by being involved and making sure your vote is counted. If you don’t vote – you have NO right to complain when you don’t like how things are going.
Treat others exactly as you want to be treated. When I was a kid, is was called the Golden Rule. Be kind, courteous, generous, and caring to EVERYONE. Honestly, I don’t know when it became acceptable to be rude to complete strangers, but it sure seems like it’s okay. For some people, the internet is a shield. They can safely say whatever they want without having to look that person in the eye. That is the coward’s way. And, stand up for others who can’t stand up for themselves. If you see someone being picked on bullied, step in and do something. Or find someone who can. Not doing anything is just plain wrong.
#1 Piece of Advice
Always tell the truth. It’s easy to remember the truth. A lie is what is tough to remember.
We can’t control the world, but we can control ourselves. I’m certainly not saying that you can’t experience life, but I’m passing on this advice to try and help you avoid a few of the mistakes I’ve made myself.
For those of you “seasoned” ladies, like myself, what advice would you give other twenty something women? Let me know in the comments!